But quite frankly it is. Losing the ability to care for oneself can not only be a risk to personal safety, but it is difficult to come to terms with mentally and emotionally. Often its left to the children to broach the subject of Mum and or Dad needing home care, - this can be a daunting prospect but can be made more comfortable and more effective by careful research and planning.
A lot of people find it very stressful to acknowledge that they need the assistance, and then taking the next step in actually allowing carers through the door can be very daunting. So how can you help your parents / loved ones to come to terms with having in home support ? how do you help them adjust ?
When someone first needs care they are usually dealing with loss; loss of independence to some degree, it could be a physical or mental loss of capacity or they just see needing help as a sign of weakness.
Leslie helped her mum and dad downsize to their little cottage. Both 70, at the time, they were fit for their age. But, mum wanted less housework and dad a smaller yard. Now, at 75, mum has Parkinson's disease,and Leslie is over 50 with two kids in college. Leslie is a Purchasing Manager looking forward to travel with her husband Mick at retirement. But, now Leslie worries about mum and dad being home alone without home care services.
As the face of the Australian home care industry has begun to change. If you’ve caught wind of this, you might have found yourself asking for yourself asking (or on behalf of an elderly friend or relative ) “am I getting the best care package for my money?” or "what hours of support does it qualify them/me for?" Depending on your provider this can vary!
All formal working relationships need rapport and trust to function well. This is particularly relevant to the relationship between an individual and the person/s who are employed to provide them with home care – carers or support workers. It is certainly important that the carer makes sure client’s feel at ease with approaching and relating to them – but it is equally important that the lines don’t become blurred.
Did you visit an elderly loved one at home this festive season?